Comments on: Grief: A Glimpse Into The Journey

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 22:24:06 +0000

I just want to thank you for posting this. We are in the final days of my 10 year old nephew's fight with Leukemia. They have stopped the medications because this third chemo try has not done any good. They are just letting him be a child while he can, but we are all fearing what is to come. I have lost several people that were very close to me but I know that none of it will compare with what my brother is going to go through.

By: Lori B

Lori B — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 03:32:51 +0000

I had a stillborn son 15 years ago and I agree with everything you have said. I know now to only say to grieving parents, I am sorry for your loss and I cannot imagine what you are going through. As you said, no one can ever know what you are going through. I also agree that saying "what do you need" does not help. It is best to just do something for the family. Usually they are in such grief that they are almost paralyzed. One thing I have always said is that no matter how much grief I experienced, I could never imagine what it would be like to have a child whose laugh I heard or whose smile I saw, and then lose them. Thank you for such a great site!

By: Stimey

Stimey — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 23:12:13 +0000

This is beautiful. I'm sorry you had to write it.

By: Susan (5 minutes for mom)

Susan (5 minutes for mom) — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 00:30:38 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing this important post. I cannot even begin to imagine such grief and it scares me deeply. But we all need to learn how best to support those of us who are forced into that club. Thank you.

By: Heidi @ GGIP

Heidi @ GGIP — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 17:18:12 +0000

Thank you very much for sharing. It is very helpful to know what not to say.

By: rickismom

rickismom — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 05:37:38 +0000

Well said. My husband lost a child to crib death 30 years ago. The child had been coughing the night before. Till today he can not sleep in a small child in the house is coughing.

By: Sandi @ Life with Jessica

Sandi @ Life with Jessica — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 04:11:17 +0000

Thank you for this beautiful post.

By: Trish

Trish — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 02:20:33 +0000

That is such a powerful quote about not having a name for one who has lost a child. Thank you for opening your heart to us, Chrissi, and helping us understand a little bit better what you and others in your situation are going through.

By: Amazing_Grace

Amazing_Grace — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 22:26:10 +0000

Great post! I only wish they had a support group like that around where I live. We have nothing to help us and we struggled from day to day on our own.

By: Becky

Becky — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 22:16:12 +0000

Thank you for this. During a recent grieving I experienced (a much lesser grief), I was put in touch with some statistics on grief (not super helpful at the time), and it listed the amount of time it takes to get over various types of losses. Loss of a parent–so many years, loss of a spouse–so many years, etc. And the last item on the list was: loss of a child–never. This is a grief one never recovers from. An amputee who's lost an arm learns, after 20 years, to get along without their arm, but every day, they want it back. Every day, you want your child back. Thank you for this reminder to be gentle with those living the lifelong sorrow of mommy grief.