Comments on: Try This Tuesday #24: 1-2-3 Magic

By: rickismom

rickismom — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 23:14:46 +0000

I definately have found pro-active rather than reacitive works better.I think that there is a need to have MANY tools in your “basket”, and use the technique that fits the child/situation….

By: Try This Tuesday #35: Disciplining Your Child

Try This Tuesday #35: Disciplining Your Child — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 15:33:03 +0000

[...] actually posted about this topic previously, right after I started using 1-2-3 Magic with my son Michael (age 7). There are many different [...]

By: Trish

Trish — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 22:03:28 +0000

Thanks so much for your comments and to Susan for the Love and Logic recommendation. I agree there is no “magic bullet” – it is more a matter of figuring out what works for you and then sticking with it.

And having a place like this to share ideas and encourage each other for the journey is truly wonderful!

By: Susan (5 Minutes for Mom)

Susan (5 Minutes for Mom) — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 16:06:39 +0000

I’m a HUGE fan of Love and Logic.
http://www.loveandlogic.com/

I remember when Janice first was given a copy of 1-2-3 Magic by a friend and she was really excited about it too. She wrote a post about it at 5 Minutes for Mom.
http://www.5minutesformom.com/48/timeouts/

It is interesting to hear people’s different opinions on different books and discipline ideas. I find that some people don’t like 1-2-3 Magic and say that a child should behave immediately and not be given warnings. I do tend to agree, but I will admit that lately I have also been counting to 3 sometimes with Julia and each time it has worked.

But again my overall approach tends to be http://www.loveandlogic.com/

By: Alicia @ Experiencing Each Moment

Alicia @ Experiencing Each Moment — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 14:46:12 +0000

That book sounds great!

I completely agree with Maddy, and was quite discouraged in my early years as a mother (lol-I’ve only been a mom for 5 years). But when all of us were having babies, toddlers, and reading those books I kept thinking, “Okay, I’ve done this the same way EVERY TIME THIRTY TIMES, why isn’t it working.” I’ve come to the same conclusion. Other parents will see their children respond w/in a few days or a week, but I have to realize I’ll see the result next year (if I’m lucky).

It reminds me of God telling Moses to go to Pharaoh. Moses asked how will they know that it is you who have sent me. God told him that once they were in the Promised Land (after the whole thing was over) they would know.

By: Barbara

Barbara — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 14:17:41 +0000

Amen to Maddy’s comment for what is common and difficult in parenting and increased for parenting a child with special needs. “persistence and consistency” Doing the same thing over and over for long periods of time is wearing. “I’m in for the long haul” is the kind of commitment it takes.

Like Trish said “disenchanted” – another challenge is to decide who to listen to – sometimes only to be told later that the “magic” technique is no longer used by anyone else, or “magic2″ is on the market.

The circle of support and information provided here is wonderful. Thanks to everyone at 5 minutes for special needs for helping so many parents and children in 2008.

By: Maddy

Maddy — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 05:22:09 +0000

I think I’ve probably read every book on the market [yes,I do have a tendency to exaggerate] however, I think mine more or less boils down to persistence and consistency which does eventually work. The main difference is the marathon nature of the venture. Whilst the average child will respond in a week to ten days, with mine it’s usually months and sometimes years.

At the same time, because I know it’s probably going to take FOREVER I generally don’t too upset about it as I know I’m in for the long haul.
Best wishes

By: Another Piece of the Puzzle » Try These Resources

Another Piece of the Puzzle » Try These Resources — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 05:01:20 +0000

[...] Try This Tuesday at 5MFSN today, I wrote about my introduction to 1-2-3 Magic, which is a parenting/discipline [...]

By: Cale

Cale — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:39:24 +0000

We were never really fans of 1-2-3 here. Maybe because Mom would always extend it out to 2 and a 1/2, 2 and 3/4, etc. so we’d never actually get in trouble.
So since time wasn’t an effective counter, we’d usually do a warning system. You got 3 warnings, and if by the 3rd you hadn’t responded you got sent to your room. Which was effective until Carl got video games in his room and I got a computer. Then they’d just take away stuff.