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October 19, 2008

Getting in front of the lens

I know this is Melody’s field of expertise; I’m not going to talk about capturing the best light or composition.  I just think it’s a necessary conversation to have with any photo-obsessed mom.

I am one.

We can smell our own.

“Stand there!  Turn a little, little more, no, too far. Right there. Smile. No a REAL smile. Stop with the fake smile!”

Snap. Snap. Snap.

Lots and lots of pictures.  Kids on the beach.  Kids in the back yard.  Kids unaware they’re being photographed so you get these striking photos of thoughtful expressions with the evening sun reflecting off their perfect skin.  Kids in the bath.  Kids with other kids. Smiling, laughing, playing. Kids. Kids. Kids.

Beautiful! Perfect! You are Anne Geddes' sister from another mister.

Now.

PUT DOWN THE CAMERA.

Or more to the point:

GIVE THE CAMERA TO SOMEONE ELSE.

Seriously.

Of the fifty or so bajillion pictures I have OF my kids, I probably have 5 WITH my kids.  We have the standard family portraits where we all dress alike and smile, but those are so not representative of the personalities that make up my family.  Those random snapshots, the careless natural interludes are never captured because I am always the one clicking away…too desperate to seize each rapidly escaping moment…failing to be a part of them.

So what if my husband doesn’t always wait for the perfect expression and sometimes my friends’ pictures are blurry.  Who cares if there’s a stranger caught in the background and no one made sure my shirt collar wasn’t sticking up? Maybe I’m the only one that takes fifty variations of the same shot, hoping that one of them will be THE picture. 

When I give up the camera, what I have is far more precious.  I would rather have blurry, goofy, wonky pictures of my children and me, than to look back one day and realize I spent too much time behind the lens and forgot to participate in the fun.

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Comments on Getting in front of the lens »

October 19, 2008

Spring @ 3:27 pm

LOL!!! Thanks for writing this post! I too need to stand back from the camera once in a while…my kids ask, "Why weren't you there, Mommy?" Of course I was there…behind the camera!

I'm going to take your advice…Right after I get the perfect Christmas photos, and the perfect Chinese New Year photos…oh wait, I forgot Ethiopian Christmas!…is there a 12 step program for this?

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LauraJ @ 3:40 pm

I wish I had someone to give the camera to! For now it's all about the boy.

Danette @ 4:28 pm

This is such good advice! I'm also one who takes 50 shots of the same, hoping one of them will turn out to be a great one :) . I come by it honestly, my dad is the same way hehe. My husband isn't much on pictures (although he humors me, lol) but I've been figuring out how to use the 10-second delay to get pictures with me in them… my last attempt didn't turn out great, but I was in it at least :) .

October 20, 2008

Deanna @ 12:15 am

Yes! Point well taken. I do think we (the ones with the camera) tend to forget we *need* to be in the pictures as well! Yep…we need to be shown in our "family history".

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