Comments on: The rant of an imperfect mom with imperfect children http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/2542/the-rant-of-an-imperfect-mom-with-imperfect-children/ Support. insight. and inspiration for parents of children with special needs Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:16:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Shasti http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/2542/the-rant-of-an-imperfect-mom-with-imperfect-children/comment-page-1/#comment-248528 Shasti Sat, 09 Jan 2010 19:54:09 +0000 http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/?p=2542#comment-248528 I know this post is old at this point, but I just found it. Thank God. There isn't a mother with an extraordinarily gifted child who has not felt this way. If they haven't, they're lying! *smile* I say extraordinarily gifted because in my mind, their thinking IS extraordinary. And that means "special" or "different" to me. And their thinking is also a gift. I can't say I love this gift every day, because I don't. The oppression we feel around our children's differences is immense. I call it oppression because (albeit unintentionally most often) we are, as are our children, isolated and ostracized from "typical lives." Whatever THAT means... We are also, when the day is done, left to our own devices. Often we are exhausted to the point of writing what we've all written here. So "our own devices" are so deficient that we get lost. Each of us writing what we have here is actually our way of grounding ourselves again. So thanks to everyone for your words, your stories. We aren't alone. - Shasti, mother of a 6 yr old with autism I know this post is old at this point, but I just found it. Thank God.
There isn’t a mother with an extraordinarily gifted child who has
not felt this way. If they haven’t, they’re lying! *smile* I say extraordinarily
gifted because in my mind, their thinking IS extraordinary. And that means
“special” or “different” to me. And their thinking is also a gift. I can’t say
I love this gift every day, because I don’t. The oppression we feel around
our children’s differences is immense. I call it oppression because (albeit
unintentionally most often) we are, as are our children, isolated and ostracized from “typical lives.” Whatever THAT means… We are also, when the day is done, left to our own devices. Often we are exhausted to the point of writing what we’ve all written here. So “our own devices” are so deficient that we get lost. Each of us writing what we have here is actually our way of grounding ourselves again. So thanks to everyone for your words, your stories. We aren’t alone. – Shasti, mother of a 6 yr old with autism

]]> By: Marie http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/2542/the-rant-of-an-imperfect-mom-with-imperfect-children/comment-page-1/#comment-242586 Marie Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:07:22 +0000 http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/?p=2542#comment-242586 Getting into a community of people who can understand at least on some level is the best decision we can all make. Getting into a community of people who can understand at least on some level is the best decision we can all make.

]]> By: Azaera http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/2542/the-rant-of-an-imperfect-mom-with-imperfect-children/comment-page-1/#comment-241245 Azaera Sat, 12 Dec 2009 05:04:13 +0000 http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/?p=2542#comment-241245 In my kindergarten class I have an autistic boy, a boy with aspergers and one with ADHD, at home I have a son who's legally blind and has hormone problems. So I can sort of see the challenges faced by many of these parents. I think they are equally challenging honestly. I love all of them, and at times I am driven crazy by each of them. I think it is tough to look at your child and then look at the neurotypical ones and their parents. Sometimes I feel jealous, other times I feel like I'm the lucky one because I understand so much more than they do. In my kindergarten class I have an autistic boy, a boy with aspergers and one with ADHD, at home I have a son who’s legally blind and has hormone problems. So I can sort of see the challenges faced by many of these parents. I think they are equally challenging honestly. I love all of them, and at times I am driven crazy by each of them. I think it is tough to look at your child and then look at the neurotypical ones and their parents. Sometimes I feel jealous, other times I feel like I’m the lucky one because I understand so much more than they do.

]]> By: Janet http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/2542/the-rant-of-an-imperfect-mom-with-imperfect-children/comment-page-1/#comment-241113 Janet Fri, 11 Dec 2009 19:45:29 +0000 http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/?p=2542#comment-241113 I could have written that post. One change would have been that my oldest (5th grader) is accademically gifted and does need to be challanged (and isn't). I could have written that post. One change would have been that my oldest (5th grader) is accademically gifted and does need to be challanged (and isn’t).

]]> By: Stacey Harris http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/2542/the-rant-of-an-imperfect-mom-with-imperfect-children/comment-page-1/#comment-241059 Stacey Harris Fri, 11 Dec 2009 16:42:46 +0000 http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/?p=2542#comment-241059 reading this is emotional so often I TRY to focus on the positive, I think I forget to stop take a moment and grieve for what wasn't. My "stuff" with my kids is small, compared to many-- and yet I still "get" you! reading this is emotional
so often I TRY to focus on the positive,
I think I forget to stop take a moment and grieve for what wasn’t.

My “stuff” with my kids is small, compared to many– and yet I still “get” you!

]]> By: Beverly http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/2542/the-rant-of-an-imperfect-mom-with-imperfect-children/comment-page-1/#comment-241043 Beverly Fri, 11 Dec 2009 15:43:47 +0000 http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/?p=2542#comment-241043 beautiful post, thanks! beautiful post, thanks!

]]> By: tesyaa http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/2542/the-rant-of-an-imperfect-mom-with-imperfect-children/comment-page-1/#comment-240990 tesyaa Fri, 11 Dec 2009 14:25:17 +0000 http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/?p=2542#comment-240990 This is really powerful! As a mother I know exactly what you feel. It's almost like we have nothing in common with parents of "regular" children. In my case, though, I do have several mainstream children as well as my special needs kids. So a lot of the time I do have to act like everything's OK, and I'm tired of that. This is really powerful! As a mother I know exactly what you feel. It’s almost like we have nothing in common with parents of “regular” children. In my case, though, I do have several mainstream children as well as my special needs kids. So a lot of the time I do have to act like everything’s OK, and I’m tired of that.

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