November 25, 2009
Leftover Children
Leftovers – lots of leftovers – turkey, gravy, yams, stuffing, green beans, rolls. One of the best things about Thanksgiving dinner is having leftovers for the next few days. One of my favorites is a hot turkey sandwich – leftover turkey piled high on leftover yeast rolls and then covered in leftover gravy. After a few days, we are driven to get creative with the leftovers, but to me, they are still just as good.
Did you know that a lot of the children in foster care, children waiting for a family to call their own, feel like leftovers? They have watched their friends and sometimes their family members get adopted, but they still wait. The feel like the leftovers that everyone has grown tired of.
But just as we get creative with our Thanksgiving leftovers, we can get creative with the children who wait for a forever family. It’s certainly not going to be easy to bring a teenager into your family, a teenager who has been rejected so many times that he will try to reject you. It’s not easy to bring the group of three siblings home to your quiet, clean house, but trust me, they won’t have much to bring with them to mess up your house. Or the child with significant disabilities that is spending her life in an institutional setting – all she wants, even if she can’t verbalize it, is to wake each morning with the knowledge that she is loved and wanted.
As National Adoption Awareness Month draws to a close, I implore you to examine your lives closely and see if there is any way possible that you can bring home a child who believes he is a leftover that no one wants.
Deborah can be found writing here at 5MFSN every Wednesday, and can also be found at Pipecleaner Dreams.
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Lisa @ 8:59 pm
as a foster parent…I have parented over 30 children..and let me tell you..not ONE of them have ever felt like leftovers. Not all children in care are up for adoption. Some are in care temporarily. Some actually go back to their bio famlies. I'm not sure how the US system works..but over here I have only had one child who was up for adoption and was "shown" three times and did not get adopted..so he stays here..he has our last name..and he doesn't feel like leftovers..he's ours.
anonymus @ 2:15 am
I need prayer to always be very safe and protected and for no one to ever hurt me or my son ever and to always be free and live very long and be young looking with no wrinkles.