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August 5, 2009

This? Right Here? SCARES Me

So there I was on Twitter again, and I saw this come up in my twitterstream:

Autistic Marine Booted From the Corps

Go read it. I'll wait.

Done? Good.

Did you not freak out a little? I did. Do you know how easy it is for children like Spiff to be easily led into doing something and not even realize what exactly he is getting into?

Then I read this and my blood ran cold:

“During this meeting, Teson assisted Fry [to] fill out initial screening paperwork,” Fry’s attorneys wrote in an unsuccessful motion to dismiss the case. “Fry informed Teson that he was autistic and had asthma. He also told Teson of his criminal record and that Mary Beth [Fry] had a limited conservatorship over him.”

Fry’s lawyers allege that the recruiter told him what to say to make it through the screening. (my italics)

“While assisting Fry in filling out the paperwork, Teson instructed Fry that ‘if we don’t put in yes,’ then they won’t know.”

Testifying during Fry’s Article 32 hearing, Teson said he didn’t think the conservatorship affected Fry’s ability to enlist, and he didn’t ask anyone in his chain of command about it.

I have seen this happen with Neurotypical, Non-Aspergian and Non-Autistic people. My niece, who enlisted in the Army, when she informed her recruiter she had a bum shoulder, was told not to mention it. Other medical issues she brought up to him were also swept under the rug. She went in anyway, and soon after dislocated her shoulder. By then, the recruiter was already paid his "Finder's Fee" and went onto the next sucker recruit. She was discharged from the military, and even recently has been told by a recruiter that she can reenlist! Even though the military medical staff that looked at her said she was too far gone. That the damage was too extensive.

Some recruiters will say anything to get a young adult to enlist. Simply because their paychecks depend upon it. Their job is to sell a life in the military. By any means necessary.

(This is not to say all recruiters are like this. Many are above board. But I have seen some that act like this, and it paints an ugly picture of recruiters in general.)

The young man in the story clearly had some other issues. But the recruiter picked him up from a group home for mentally ill adults. How could that not have raised a red flag? A slight concern, maybe?

My son right now lives with his family and his father and I make decisions about him with his input. But what happens that day, when a recruiter at his High School for Career Day sidles up to him and says:

"Hey Spiff, You want to make video games for a living? I can help you get a career in Video Game Development. Let me show you.".

And because then he will be 18 and a Senior in high school, he can legally make his own decisions. Without us. What happens when he signs on that dotted line because he is being promised his dream on a silver platter? What happens when he discovers he's been sold a bill of goods? What happens if (or when?) he cracks under the pressure? Then what?

I don't even want to think about it.

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Comments on This? Right Here? SCARES Me »

August 5, 2009

Suzie and Lily @ 11:37 pm

We know someone who is addicted to heroin and was told not to mention it and they could get him in. Something is wrong when we pay recruiters by the numbers of people they sign up without any regard to who they are signing up! Can you imagine a heroin addict with a gun!!

Suzie and Lily @ 11:37 pm

We knew someone who was a heroin addict and was told by a recuiter not to mention he was in recovery (he didn't stay in recovery for long) I don't know if he ever made it to boot camp or not, but can you imagine a heroin addict with permission to use a gun!

Suzie and Lily @ 11:42 pm

Sorry having computer problems you can delete one!

August 6, 2009

Amy @ Taste Like Crazy @ 8:23 am

My grandfather was a recruiter in the Army back in the 70's and my husband was Active Duty Navy for several years and is now in the Naval Reserves.

I have never known a recruiter to receive a per recruit bonus or a "finder's fee". Based on my personal experience with recruiters from various branches, they receive the same BAH as everyone else and may receive a reenlistment bonus if they meet their quotas. However, there are comparable bonuses across rates in the military.

Anyway, that Gunny knew better than to take that guy who was obviously screwed up – and I'm not talking about the autism. I've seen recruiters tell recruits to not mention past drug use but when it comes to mental or physical disability, you DON'T lie because it will eventually come back on the recruiter.

The whole situation is amazingly screwed up – one mistake snowballed into about a million things and at each point, someone should have done something.

My suggestion to you, is to inform yourself about the military and if a recruiter does approach your son then make sure that you're with him at the recruiter's office. Yes, he will be at the age of consent, but you're still his mom and he can't make you not come.

MaddyM @ 8:42 am

That is too awful to think through all the consequences. The term 'cannon fodder' comes to mind.

Sarah @ 11:07 am

The lovely No Child Left Behind is responsible for allowing information to be given to the military in high school. Parents, at least in my district, can fill out a form that does not allow your students information to be passed along. I also started discussing this issue with my sons when they started high school. Not that military is bad, but that they would not be good candidates. (I think the part about the food really impacted them?). Depending on your child, parents need to advocate, learn the laws and perhaps seek guardianship at 18. However, bet all the parents reading these blogs already do that! Just scary about the ones that don't!

August 9, 2009

Bonnie Sayers @ 10:17 pm

I printed out that military story recently and also another one from a parent whose son had it happen as well. I hope to get the topic discussed at an LAUSD mtg and maybe somehow get a rep to help parents understand this flawed system.

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