Comments on: Try This Tuesday #55: Working as a Team

By: Stacey Harris

Stacey Harris — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 01:28:37 +0000

We call this tag-team parenting at our house…:) it doesn’t get used ALL the time but –when it does, it’s amazing that I am not clenching my teeth, and my face doesn’t seem to feel warm! ah, Joy?

I wonder if you could make an argument into two choices, you can sit in the car and complain, or you can sit in the car and be calm– ???and then in a quiet voice say to your self, if your body is calm you can get —–.
(something small)
That way you get the task, sitting in the car- done ~ at least?
I hope any of this helps!

By: Territory Mom

Territory Mom — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 14:33:04 +0000

I feel for ya girl. I don’t know why the car is such an issue. We spend a lot of time trying to get in the car, dressed, bathe, etc. Not eating though my son will sit at the table and watch me cook. If I leave the kitchen, he’ll say, “no, no comeback”. He wants to make sure I get him fed. Have a great day.

By: staying afloat

staying afloat — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 11:24:01 +0000

“It really comes down to putting Michael’s behavior in perspective to his developmental level and not feeling that one or both of us has failed because he is acting out.”

So true! A good lesson for all parents. I think it can be harder, though, for those of us who put so much time, effort and money into shaping a child’s behavior knowing that if we don’t, he may not progress. It’s so hard to remember that kids are kids.

And that extra adult can be key in providing perspective.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been yelling at my son for losing his shoes, again, when my husband had to put me in time out.

By: MaddyM

MaddyM — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 04:33:17 +0000

I am so pooped I can’t think what to say…ah yes, teamwork. Absolutely, from all directions. Do I have anything relevant to add?

Yes, we’ve just endured two hours and 15 minutes worth of dinner time trying to coax you know who, to eat his dinner. Since there’s 8 of us we did the ‘one line from a story / take turns’ to keep them all at the table. Come to think of it that was quite a lot of words from smallish people, and no-one mentioned Pokemon.

There you go, teamwork. But I’m still pooped.
Cheers