Comments on: The Problem Isn’t Really The Problem

By: Mary E S

Mary E S — Sat, 21 Aug 2010 16:32:16 +0000

I too find myself reacting to my teen(autistic) like that.At times, I lose my temper and yell,then have to apologize. It has been rough trying to homeschool him but I just pray a little harder and know that god will show me the way.

By: Heather L

Heather L — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 02:50:49 +0000

We have out yearly evaluation coming up in two weeks. I am crawling out of the self doubt pit. As I look over the year I calm down and realize that we have learned so much this year.
God bless!
Heather L

By: Danette

Danette — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 02:17:32 +0000

“You gotta live and learn, and sometimes you crash and burn…”

This is so true, I know I’ve had my share of crash & burn incidents (maybe more than my share? I don’t know). Thanks so much for sharing your perspective and your experiences.

By: arizaphale

arizaphale — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 11:39:21 +0000

I see how hard it is for pretty normal teenagers of 13+ to conform to expectations for schooling. I firmly believe that from 13-15 all children should be sent to boot camp in the desert or jungle and allowed to figure themselves out. It is not a time for academic learning, it is a time for learning about who you are and how you fit into the scheme of things. About peers and social acceptance and solving relationship problems. How much brain and emotional space is left for processing academia when all that other stuff is on your plate? It is the toughest gig of all I believe.

By: Julie

Julie — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 12:25:26 +0000

Melody, you made me cry into my coffee with this post! Our situation is a little bit different, but in homeschooling my son with Autism I see the viewing him with the eyes of the world is a constant danger. I agree with you that this parenting thing is learn-as-you-go…and that is HARD! Thank you for sharing your story and being an inspiration. I keep thinking about a post you wrote awhile ago about having to be a “mean mommy”. (I should go find it) I feel like I’m going through all of that right now. I have to be tough, but in the end, it’s what’s best…

By: Stacey

Stacey — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 17:15:57 +0000

I really like reading this post and hearing the honesty that goes with it–
I have also found my self –changing how I interact with the kids — if I give Shane more time — I have better results–
and my focus is the results– maybe one day… he will do more himself — but for now I want him to be valued for what he can achieve.

Motherhood isn’t easy,
but do we,
as Mothers…
always have to learn
and re-learn these lesssons?

By: Donna Blessed Nest

Donna Blessed Nest — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 15:18:33 +0000

oh a snuggle bug! He looks so peaceful. So glad you worked through it and can share with others! What an experience.

By: Susan (5 Minutes for Mom)

Susan (5 Minutes for Mom) — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 07:35:25 +0000

Melody, I am so happy to hear that you’ve worked this out.

What a fabulous photo! I love it!!!

By: Barbara

Barbara — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 01:52:56 +0000

I felt much better, too, seeing him blanketed in your love.

By: rickismom

rickismom — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 00:31:46 +0000

unfortunately though, sometimes one parent can be really off, and THAT presents a BIG problem……